As a busy mom or someone who has ADHD, in this blog, I want to share with you my experience and frustration with trying to become consistent in my life and teach you the life-changing mind shift that I learned a few years ago that has made a huge impact on my success in getting organized.
How many times have you heard somebody tell you, if you were just a little bit more consistent, then you would be successful?
I've heard those words so many times in my life, and I have spent so much time trying to get better at being consistent.
It seemed like no matter how hard I try, it was just the concept that I can't seem to master. And I think people don't realize how much shame comes with feeling like you can't do something even though you want to.
A lot of the time I just thought I was lazy or just thought I didn't want it bad enough. And I had a lot of negative self-talk when it came to my lack of consistency. But then about a year ago, I got diagnosed with ADHD and I began to research how that affected my life.
I had no idea that there were so many aspects of my life, things that I struggled with that were directly related to having ADHD and having trouble.
Staying consistent from day to day is a huge obstacle for those of us who have ADHD. Just like a lot of things that I discovered about what it means to have ADHD, learning that the struggle that I've had my whole life isn't because I'm lazy or didn't want it bad enough, was such a huge, it made such a huge impact on my life.
And while it was great to know that the struggle was because of something that I can't necessarily control, that didn't change the fact that I still needed a solution, I still wanted to find success when it came to getting my home organized and keeping my home organized.
So being the person that I am, I decided to just research as much as I could and find a solution. And one of my favorite ways to do research is to listen to podcasts, coincidentally. One day I was listening to a podcast of a fellow business owner who also has ADHD, and she said one of the most amazing things that I had ever heard. She was relating it more to running a business, but the concept applies to so many parts of our lives.
She said that so many times we focus on trying to be consistent when really we would benefit more from focusing on being persistent.
Many times we set goals for ourselves to go to the gym every day or to load the dishwasher and run it before bed every night. Any time that we don't deliver on that expectation, we beat ourselves up and feel like we're a failure.
Instead of focusing on being persistent, missing one day at the gym won't make you feel like a failure. Instead, getting up the next day and going to the gym anyway only proves that you are strong enough to get back up and try again.
There are so many times in the process of decluttering and organizing your house, that feeling of overwhelm, feelings of fear will come up and will cause you to miss a day.
When that happens I want you to remind yourself that you are human, that it's okay to take a break or to skip a day, and just promise yourself that you'll pick up where you left off when you're in a better head space to do that.
It took me probably three years to get to a point where I felt like I had success in having and maintaining an organized home.
There were many times in those three years that I would quit or just stop focusing on it for a while.
The only reason that I found success is because I never let myself give up completely on the goal. Did I hope that it would take less time than that?
I'm so glad that I didn't give up. I want you to stop concerning yourself with the concept of being consistent and change your focus to being persistent.